contemplating a divorce?
in the middle of a divorce?
divorced and trying to find YOU again?
navigating the pitfalls of co-parenting?
We are here to support you
Divorce is a confusing time filled with untraveled paths that often seem dark, scary …. and endless.
There are so many questions to answer:
“How do I even begin to find an attorney?”
“How will my children handle divorce?”
“How will I support two households?”
“Will I have to go back to work?”
We are Divorce and Mediation Coaches and can help you break down all of your questions into manageable pieces so that you can create clarity out of the chaos of divorce. Our goal is to help you work through the confusion, the uncertainty, the hurt and to come out the other end with the clarity of knowing who you are and what you want out of this next stage of your life.
Wherever you are on your divorce path, from contemplation to completion and beyond, we are here to support you. Our goal is to make this often confusing, frustrating and highly emotional time more manageable by making sure you understand what needs to be accomplished at every step in the divorce process. Divorce is overwhelming, and there are so many decisions that need to be made! We will work with you to establish your goals for settlement and your post-divorce life. We will determine where you need more information and get you in the hands of professionals that can answer your questions so you can reach your goals. Our belief is that you need to use your divorce to build a strong foundation for your future. We also want you to avoid the divorce hangover – all the “woulda, coulda, shoulda” thoughts that often plaque people post-divorce. Our job is to make sure that you understand the pros and cons of every decision you make during your divorce so you can move forward knowing you did everything within your control to secure the best settlement possible.
Divorce Mediation Coaching
For most people entering into divorce mediation, this will be there first introduction to the mediation process. As mediation coaches, we help you understand the mediation process and teach you how to become your own advocate while at the mediation table. We believe that in order for you to have a successful mediation it is vital that you come prepared to every mediation session. We work with you to prepare for each session by gaining an understanding of what the agenda will be and determining what information you need prior to each session in order to be able to make educated decisions. We work with a network of highly trained divorce professionals in the fields of law, real estate/mortgage, financial planning, insurance, mental health, etc., so we can quickly get you in the hands of a professional that can fill in any knowledge gaps or help you understand what is strategically most advantageous for your situation. We believe that your Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) is one of the most important personal contracts you will ever sign and we want to make sure you understand the short and long term effects of everything in your agreement.
Research shows it’s not the divorce that negatively impacts children, it is the on-going conflict between parents that is detrimental to your children’s well-being. The one thing that has been shown to create conflict between parents is the lack of planning as to how you will operate now that you’ll be living in two homes. As Co-Parenting Specialists, we believe that in order to avoid this conflict it is critical you create a well thought out parenting plan. This plan will become the roadmap for how you will co-parent together. The plan will detail things like:
- Consistency between homes
- How discipline will be handled
- Which parent will take the lead on what issues
- How to support your children in acclimating to two homes
- Managing issues around gaming, cell phones, social media, driving, dating, etc.
Just as important, the plan will address how you will resolve issues where you cannot come to agreement so you can avoid future litigation.
When life spins well beyond your hopes and dreams for yourself, your marriage and family it can become incredibly disorienting and overwhelming. We have experienced this ourselves, so you are not alone. We went through our own divorces and walked away stunned, believing that there HAD TO BE a better way. So, we decided to figure out how we can turn our less-than-ideal divorce experiences into a career that could help people do their divorce in a more positive way.
As Certified Divorce Coaches (CDC), Divorce Mediators and Co-Parenting Specialists, we have invested in over a thousand hours (and counting) of training so we can help our clients become the experts they need to be in order to have the most successful divorce outcome possible. We believe that much of the conflict that occurs during a divorce is due to the lack of information. Not having the information needed to make decisions can create fear, sadness, anger, etc. Not managing this well-spring of emotion can often derail the divorce process. Our job is to make sure you understand the realities of the legal system, where you have knowledge gaps, and ultimately your post-divorce goals so that you remain focused on resolution that will allow you to thrive when your divorce is over.
We actively collaborate with a vast network of highly trained divorce professionals so that when you need more information about the law, divorce financials, real estate/mortgage or even need additional support from a mental health professional, we can get you into the hands of an expert that can help. Our belief is that there is no need to sit in fear when going through a divorce, there are answers and support for every situation. We are here to support and guide you throughout the process, you don’t have to this alone.
Contact Your Divorce Advocate
Contact me to receive a FREE 30 minute Discovery Coaching Session or call 1-858-276-0899
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